While HPV infection is the leading cause of cervical cancer, in reality it is very rare for HPV infection to progress to cancer with proper treatment. 60 to 80 % of CIN 1 dysplasias resolve on their own, and only about 1% of cases progress to invasive cervical cancer.
HPV AND DATING GUIDE: GET THE FACTS YOU NEED TO KNOW NOW
So... You Have HPV, a highly contagious Sexually Transmitted Disease known to cause such undesireable things as Genital Warts and which can lead to Cervical Cancer, most shocking of all There Is No Cure. (Yikes..insert awkward pause in dinner conversation)
How easy do you think its going to be to find someone who'll understand and accept you now that you're "damaged goods"? Well both you and I know that you are not any less of who you are before you found out about HPV but trust me... I know from experience it will be tough, talking a potential date about your condition.
Let's face it. You WILL be rejected, probably more often than not - but you must stand strong. There is hope in finding someone who will love you for you.
Very little is known about HPV by the general public, in fact recent studies suggest up to 80% of sexually active people get HPV (thousands of whom visit this site everyday to find each other). Most just aren't aware because they are asymptotic and continue about their lives without ever even thinking they could be spreading a potentially deadly virus. Well lucky them - You However Now Need to be More Careful Than Ever.
Research and knowledge is your best resource when dealing with the complex emotions of dating with HPV. We're here to give you the facts and some advice you can use as you get out and get your dating life back on track!
Diagnosis with HPV usually hits people like a ton of bricks. When your doctor or practitioner first uttered those 3 letters you probably thought to yourself, or exclaimed "what?!" Many emotions raced through your mind. How did this happen? Who gave this to me? Will I ever be able to date again? Will I ever be able to have SEX again? These feelings are totally normal. As time progresses things will get easier.
How Did This Happen?
Most people think sexually transmitted diseases will 'happen to someone else' or that using a condom is 100% foolproof in protecting against STD's. The most important thing to realize is that ANYONE who is sexually active has an extremely high likelihood that they will come into contact HPV. According to Rutgers University Health Services: "Over a typical college career approximately 60% of sexually active women will become infected...The HPV virus is so common that it can almost be considered normal to have it." Further, the Association of Reproductive Health Professionals states: "Genital HPV is very common. Many estimates have placed the lifetime likelihood of getting genital HPV to be in the range of 75-90%." The American Journal of Medicine adds: "...nearly three in four Americans between the ages of 15 and 49 have been infected with genital HPV at some point in their life. " Think about that for a second. 3 out of 4! It is almost impossible to be sexually active with more than one partner your entire life and avoid HPV. While most do not know they have the virus because it does not cause any visible symptoms, they are still able to transmit the virus to others. While this does sound alarming it is comforting to know that most people are exposed to HPV and for most it does not cause any harm. Informing your current or future dating partner armed with these statistics makes it a whole lot easier to swallow. (sources)
Where Can I find other people with HPV to date?
We understand at times it is diffucult especially in the begining stages of learning about HPV or if you have been rejected in the past. That is why we have affiliated with PositiveSingles.com to create HPV Match! Find others in your area today who have HPV and share your outlook on dating. It is free to join and you can start communicating right away in our forums! Then sign up for direct anonymous communicating and more features. Sign up today FREE!
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How can I talk to my partner or a new date about HPV and genital warts?
The first thing to understand is that it definetly does NOT need to be the first thing you blurt out when sitting down to dinner on your first date. Become friends first, do things together, build a relationship in which communication and trust are paramount and you will find disclosure - and initial reaction - much easier. Here are some scripts to follow in telling a new or future dating partner about HPV.